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Dealing With Adult Shyness

"Thomas" (2018-04-03)

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Adult shyness is a problem. People often expect some awkwardness from teenagers and children, but adult shyness can be regarded as less acceptable, as if it should big-dick somehow be "grown out of". As the causes of shyness are many and varied, this kind of attitude is not terribly understanding and unhelpful. Society is generally beyond that advice to "pull yourself together again" these days.

These feelings of awkwardness, discomfort can cause real damage to people's personal and professional lives.

So how do you tackle adult shyness? Nearly half of adults, apparently, consider themselves shy, though clearly there are degrees. You can try medication to feel less anxious, but this may not help. It may take away some of the symptoms, or even inhibitions, but it doesn't attack the causes of shyness, or improve your ability to interact socially. The same also applies to alcohol.

One way of trying to break down the barriers that shyness imposes is dealing with the art of "small talk." Successful encounters will help you with your adult shyness, so how do you survive them? Well, tip one is to be prepared to engage in conversation, through reading newspapers, paying attention to popular TV shows, or even just having some topics up your sleeve. Absorbing yourself in what the other person is saying is also important, inviting them to talk and asking open ended questions. This has several benefits. It gives you something to concentrate on you other than yourself and how you are feeling. It also makes you into a good listener, something people appreciate. It also allows them to talk about themselves - the most fascinating topic to many people!

Tackling adult shyness is like many things. If you can understand the causes of your shyness and take steps to act on it, then you will get some rewards.

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